We Are The Problem

August 17, 2018

Couples fight, yes.

And to those who do it most of the time, the struggle is perfectly real.

Sometimes, the deeper we love someone is the greater the anger we feel.

This makes our heart in so much ache yet pride leads us so high.

Worst, when we felt so much pain, we also wanted to give that same amount of pain to our partners.

This should not be the case. And we all know that but we just can’t manage our emotions all the time.

It will always be hard but at least we’re giving it a try.

We should all know by heart that it is not ‘You versus Me’ and instead be, ‘We versus our Problem’.

Easier said than done, yes.

But that will make our life easier.

Respect is rule number one.

Struggles will always meet us and misunderstandings will always be in between.

And I believe that accepting defeat or own mistakes must come first in hand then deeper understanding of the situation will follow.

Individual differences are the most basic reason of fights.

It is and never will be easy to adjust but at the very least, we should keep on trying.

Here’s some tips that I may share to everyone:

Ø  Respect first before bursting out.

Ø  Controlling our temper is also must be on the list.

Ø  Stay calm.

Ø  It’s okay to talk endlessly, to rant, to say useless things but never ever shout and refrain from belittling or using cuss words to our loved ones.

Ø  It’s okay to have a dead air for some moment – to think and to breathe.

Ø  Then start talking about the problem, the solution, the resolution, the conclusion.

Ø  Cooperate to solve the problem.

Ø  Don’t be afraid to say, ‘Sorry’. It won’t eat you.

Our love is greater than our problems.

Please keep that in mind. It’s a much better feeling of having peace with someone rather than a war either silent or outrage.

Every couple is a problem that continuously needs to be fixed.

Let’s always choose the right battle – and it is "Us" versus our problem.

I Love It When You Cry

Thank you for showing your weakness only to me.

Thank you for trusting me with your emotions.

Thank you for letting me witness your miseries.

Thank you for I am always able to comfort you.

You trusted me much and for me it only means that you love me for real.

Same here, my Love. I love and trust you much.

Whether you cry because of an emotional outburst, grief, or just because of a sad movie, I am happy to witness it because you chose me – over and over again, to be with you, with any kind of situation life may bring us, I am glad.

As much as we laughed together, it feels good to cry with you. Not to crazily react on a sad moment but because every burden becomes lighter when shared it together.

I still clearly remember the very first time you cried with me even though it was already ages ago. And up to now, it still gives me goosebumps every time you choose to let me witness your rare weak moments.

Actually, seeing you cry is not about showing your weakness. Instead I adore you more because you bravely show your soft side that not everyone can see.

Thank you, My Love.

Thank you also for always bearing with me in every down side that I have and shared with you. Thank you for wiping my tears, kissing me and for the embraces specially when I need it.

I’m so lucky to have an instant someone whom I can share with every emotion that we have.

Whether for tears or for joy, I am here. As always.

Either we cry or we laugh, let’s do it together, as always.