August 17, 2018
Couples fight, yes.
And to those who do it most of the time, the struggle is perfectly
real.
Sometimes, the deeper we love someone is the greater the
anger we feel.
This makes our heart in so much ache yet pride leads us so
high.
Worst, when we felt so much pain, we also wanted to give
that same amount of pain to our partners.
This should not be the case. And we all know that but we
just can’t manage our emotions all the time.
It will always be hard but at least we’re giving it a try.
We should all know by heart that it is not ‘You versus Me’
and instead be, ‘We versus our Problem’.
Easier said than done, yes.
But that will make our life easier.
Respect is rule number one.
Struggles will always meet us and misunderstandings will
always be in between.
And I believe that accepting defeat or own mistakes must
come first in hand then deeper understanding of the situation will follow.
Individual differences are the most basic reason of fights.
It is and never will be easy to adjust but at the very least,
we should keep on trying.
Here’s some tips that I may share to everyone:
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Respect first before bursting out.
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Controlling our temper is also must be on the
list.
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Stay calm.
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It’s okay to talk endlessly, to rant, to say
useless things but never ever shout and refrain from belittling or using cuss
words to our loved ones.
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It’s okay to have a dead air for some moment –
to think and to breathe.
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Then start talking about the problem, the
solution, the resolution, the conclusion.
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Cooperate to solve the problem.
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Don’t be afraid to say, ‘Sorry’. It won’t eat
you.
Our love is greater than our problems.
Please keep that in
mind. It’s a much better feeling of having peace with someone rather than a war
either silent or outrage.
Every couple is a problem that continuously needs to be
fixed.
Let’s always choose the right battle – and it is "Us" versus our problem.
"lahat ng sinabi mo naranasan ko.........lahat ng sugat at pagkakamali gumagaling sa pagdaan ng panahon,ang mali ay naitatama....sa kin after ko ma realized lahat kamalian ko tinanggap ko un...sa tagal ng panahon ng pangungulila lahat ay natutunan ko...lesson learned ika nga ang pagkakalayo namin,mas lalo ako natuto sa buhay lalo na ang magpahalaga...it so sad nga lang nawala na ang pagmamahal ng MAHAL ko sa kin sa tagal ng panahon na di kami nagkita.....sayang ang lagi ko nasasabi...lagi ko sinisisi ang sarili ko bakit di ko naipadama sa kanya ang sinasabi ko at pinangako sa kanya na tunay na pagmamahal..haayyy kung maibabalik ko lang ang lahat.....up to now i feel empthy because of that sad experienced in my life...i still feel incomplete til this moment/stage of my life".
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