So, last night I went out with my friends.
We went into a KTV bar to celebrate my friend’s birthday.
Also, a friend brought a girl she’s courting.
It was a fun night actually. I’ve got to meet two new and nice people.
The title of this content is Showing Love: The Starting Point.
Paano mo nga ba maipapakita na gusto mo ang isang tao?
At paano mo nga rin ba malalaman kung gusto ka rin niya?
That’s the topic that was brought up on our group chat after the night out.
And here’s my viewpoint on that.
Kapag gusto mo ang isang tao, you will be clear with your intention.
You will spend a lot of time talking to that person.
You will make them feel that they are the most important person
to you right now.
Ibubuhos mo talaga yung buong atensyon mo sa kaniya.
Kasi nga mas kinikilala mo pa siya eh.
I would also want it to be straightforward
because I don’t want to waste each other’s time.
It should be a mutual decision that you will talk to each other more often
and exclusively.
You will hang out a lot together with friends or alone.
In this way, you can know each other’s interests and thoughts about random topics.
Then you will see if you match.
Also, by spending time together whether virtually or personally,
you would know each other’s flaws
and then you will decide if you’re fine with it and you will choose to stay or go away.
Back to my question number 2, paano mo malalaman kung gusto ka rin niya or kung pareho ba kayo ng nararamdaman?
Through talking with each other as well!
Hindi lang simpleng ‘Good morning’ and ‘Good night’ ang palitan ninyo ng messages.
Every day must be full of topics to talk about. Kahit ano lang mapag-usapan.
The next thing is don’t leave each other clueless.
Decide whether you’ll stop na or you’ll go to the next stage.
You can also set a timeline to yourself.
Hanggang kailan kami nasa talking stage?
Hanggang kailan kami nasa ligawan stage?
Hanggang kailan ako manliligaw?
Kailan ko malalaman ang sagot niya?
Ano ba yung ni-lo-look forward nyo?
Kailan natin ito titigil?
It doesn’t need to have an exact date but at least respect each other’s time.
Para ma-set yung expectations ng isa’t isa.
Hindi nakaka-disappoint,
hindi nanghuhula of what went wrong,
hindi feeling lost, walang magsasabi ng paasa.
I believe that having a relationship should include plans and actions.
If you both feel that it won’t work out, then stop.
If one of you feels that it won’t work out, then talk about it.
Please stop the ghosting culture. Utang na loob!
I also believe that everything can be discussed and talked about
to come up with a specific solution or end result.
It’s all about negotiations.
As a pursuer, it’s always better to be clear with your intentions
and being firm about it.
As the one who’s being pursued,
it’s a basic act to be honest and truthful of how you really feel.
Huwag maging paasa.
Huwag maging malabo.
Hindi sila manghuhula.
Let’s also be clear on how we see the things laid out on our front.
Consider the timelines as well.
Para hindi sayang sa oras, pera at effort.
Ayun lang!